No one really cares about you except the one who tells you the whole truth. Be careful, don't tell anyone anything about you, say little to people they will be surprised by your silence, distance yourself from a human being because we can be poisonous. They will ask 'oh you don't talk much or we don't see you often what's wrong?' People like this are dangerous anyone who asks about they either don't really care about you and the reason they are asking is because they want news, they want something that they can talk about when you are not around. These are the kind of people you go to for advice and tell you what you want to hear, what you want hear is not helpful what you want to hear is not what you should hear.

       Someone once said "The Truth Hurts." The truth hurts but the truth is the truth and the truth is right, the truth is what we should always hear because it helps those who think and listens. It helps you become a better person a person who learns from the truth about themselves, is a person who achieves great things. So only speak to the right people, speak to people who tells you the whole truth no matter how painful it is.  

Why do we care?

Recent stories have emerged about the alleged Solange Beyonce's sister assaulting  the rapper Jay-z in an elevator, there is no question about the situation Solange seems very angry at Jay-z Beyonce's husband and the father of her daughter. The video came out on Monday and it quickly grabbed everyone's attention, everyone started wondering what made Solange to kick and scream at the Jay-z. Everyone me included made a joke about the situation but perhaps maybe its not a funny situation. Everyone is curious to know what she was mad about, and as always we quickly jump to the conclusion before even the real person speaks out, the person who was involved speaks out we start creating stories that don't really matter.

Is it really our business to know what they were fighting about? Honestly i don't really think that it is our business to even see this video, I know us humans we are very curious people and we always want answers. But put yourself in their shoes, would want the world to know every single thing about you? This matter is serious and it seems like people have made it a laughing matter they are playing with it, they are creating stories that aren't true. When we are creating memes about this or writing stories about what she might have been pissed about, do we stop and think about what this might be doing to them, their families their lives, or their careers these are real people you know and no one has the right to speak for them when they can resolve their own problems and when they are ready to explain, they will explain. How do you think this will influence their relationship, how do you think this will influence their child's future. There is no parent in this whole world who wants their kid to know about or see what was happening in that elevator because explaining to them is difficult but now everyone has had their fun and have already created why they were fighting now they will have to explain it to her in the future. So now everyone has an idea why they were fighting does anyone want to hear the real story from them?

I think the problem with us society is that we want to know things that has no effect on our lives at all, imagine how much time everyone wasted searching watching the video and reading about the fight and this whole time except for the video you don't know the real story. But we would rather spend 30 minutes tops reading something that is written by someone who has no idea about what happened there at all. Maybe in that 30 minutes you would've done something that actually is better for your life. Why do we care about people's life, their life their business, you know what i love about this country how much freedom everyone has, there is many country in this world that don't have as much freedom as this country has. But what do we do with this freedom? We use it to ruin other people's freedom Jay-z and Beyonce was taken away from them the moment that video was put out there for the world to see. I think everyone should just chill and stop sniffing with their noses where they shouldn't sniff, Just like I or everyone else would want to have freedom to privacy, let them deal with their own problem its not my problem or anyones problem to know why they were fighting. If they wish they will explain and if they don't just shut up no ones business.

Somewhere in the beautiful lands of my homeland.#Africa

Life

Time is the most precious commodity for any living thing. In reality, it is the only thing in the world that has intrinsic value. There is nothing else more valuable than time because time can’t be bought. You are given a certain amount of time you can spend in your life.

Once you run out, you’re out. There is no buying back in. There is no borrowing or creating. What’s worse is that you’re not informed on how much time you actually have. You could have another couple of decades, or you could merely have another couple of hours. You’re almost never given a head’s up when you’re about to run out, making death almost always a surprise. You never know how much this next upcoming minute is really worth, as it could very well be your last.

Unfortunately, most people don’t think about the value of time. You can’t slow down how quickly you spend your time and you can never stop it; you will run out no matter what. Yet, you are most likely one of the billions of people in the world who are wasting their time away. Every hour of your life you spend poorly is a piece of your life wasted.

1. You’re glued to your phone.

You should count how many times you pick up and check or use your phone in a day. Calculate how many hours – it’s almost certainly hours – of a day you waste texting, tweeting, Facebooking, writing down or commenting on your own life or the lives of others instead of living in the moment. Technology is a necessary part of life now.

There’s no denying that, nor should it be avoided. However, how we use this technology and how often we use it needs to be regulated. Instead of living experiences, you’re creating memories you won’t care to remember. You could have used an extra hour to do something new or meet someone new. You could have spent it getting more work done so you can stay ahead and possible take an early vacation. You could be living more each day if you spent less time on your phone and tablet.

2. You don’t leave your comfort zone.

Life is about making choices. Do you choose to do this or do you choose to do that? When you choose one path in life, you actively abandon another. This moment can only be lived once and in one way. You will never again experience the second that has just past; you spent that second. If the worth of your life is truly the sum of your experiences, which I basically believe it to be, then you should do your best to maximize the joy and pleasure you receive from those experiences.

The pleasure derived from any single experience declines with each repetition. The first time is always the best because the excitement that novelty brings is present. One could very well argue that the best way to maximize the pleasure you receive from experiences is to experience as many different experiences as possible, using your better judgment to choose which experiences ought to be lived.

3. You spend money on things that don’t matter.

Time is money: true. And although money isn’t time, it is a useful tool in making the time you do have more enjoyable. If money isn’t an issue, that doesn’t mean you still couldn’t put that money to better use and enjoy life even more than you are now.

You can be happy completely broke, but why? Why not enjoy life’s luxuries? Do so responsibly and wisely. Don’t waste money on trivial things when you could be using it to do more for you and for the world.

4. You spend time doings things that you shouldn’t be doing.

We all have our own list – a list of habits and guilty pleasures that we more than likely either keep to ourselves entirely or lie to ourselves about, convincing ourselves we’re making good decisions. But we don’t always make good decisions. No one does. Why? I’m not sure, but it probably has to do with the fact that it feels good to make poor decisions from time to time; we call them indulgences.

It’s giving into our wants more than we should at the expense of neglecting our needs. You want certain things and then you need certain things. As long as you get what you need, you can enjoy what you want. However, once enjoying your wants results in ignoring your needs, you’re in trouble.

5. You don’t take care of your body.

Physical health is one of the most important things in life. It literally allows you to stay living. Don’t think of health as something you use up to the point you die. Physical health is something you maintain for as long as you can. The better your physical health, the more likely you are to live longer. Not to mention, you’ll literally enjoy your life more.

You may hate the thought of giving up certain aspects of your lifestyle, but think about this: When was the last time you heard an exceptionally healthy person complain about feeling sh*tty?

6. You don’t take care of your mind.

Your mind requires maintenance, just as your body does. If you neglect it by not eating right (your brain needs certain nutrients to produce certain chemical reactions), by not exercising (our bodies help our minds to stay clearer and healthier, and vice versa), or by not getting enough sleep (our brains need to be rested just as our bodies do), then you’ll enjoy your life less.

Your mind needs to be healthy in order to be happy. Happiness is not some mythological creature; it’s a combination of chemical reactions.

7. You don’t get enough sleep.

As mentioned before, your mind needs sleep in order to stay sane and to stay functioning properly. Your body, likewise, needs sleep in order to perform well. The better your mind and body perform, the better you feel.Many people believe it’s a smart idea to spend less time sleeping and more time awake. Well, that depends – not if the time you spend awake yields less total enjoyment than it could were you to sleep more. It’s not the amount of memories you have, but the joy and pleasure you experience as a result that counts. Sleep more if that means living a better life.

8. You spend too much time with people who don’t matter.

People should either matter to you or not matter to you. Of course, every human should matter to you, but I’m speaking on a purely social level. Most people we interact with are people we shouldn’t be spending our time with.

Most people would serve us better were they not a part of our lives. Most people will take away from your experiences, waste your time, expose you to unpleasant and forgettable situations, and possibly damage you emotionally for an extended period of time. If they don’t make your life better, they automatically make it worse – if only because of what you lose by not choosing to spend time with someone better.

9. You’re working a job you don’t want to be working.

Forty hours a week is quite a lot of time. That’s over 2,000 hours a year. If you work for 30 years, you will have spent nearly seven years of your life working. Could you not spend those years more wisely? Sure, you need to make money in order to support your life, but is there no way of enjoying those years working while you make that money? Of course there is; there always is. If you’re going to waste time, then waste time looking for that perfect job. In the end, it won’t be time wasted.

10. You’re living a life you don’t want to be living.

Are you living your dream life? Forget about the cars, the yachts and all the other material things you wish you had. The fact is, living your ideal, perfect life may not be possible. And if it is, there is a much better way of getting there than the way you’re traveling now. Instead of waiting to live the life you want to be living, start living it now.

Make better choices. Take time to think about your decisions and where you’re headed in life. Understand your circumstances and figure out the best possible life you could be living right now. If there is even a single thing you could do right now to make your life better, go for it; do it. Don’t wait and let life take control of you. Take control of your life by actively designing it as you go along. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will the life you should be living.

By: Paul Hudson